When dealing with custody, there are three main kinds of records you will need to maintain: Court records, School Records, and Medical/Dental Records.
To gain access to your Court records, there are two options. One option is to go into the Courthouse where the records are stored, and ask to see them and to make a copy. You will have to pay for copies. Have a list of specific items that you wish to see, to ensure that you are able to get a complete copy. If you cannot go in, due to a work schedule or distance, you can request a copy, in writing. They will inform you of the total price for copies, and then you must send them payment before they send you the copies. Here is a letter template that we have used to get copies:
Month Day, 20XX
X County Court
City, State Zip
To Whom It May Concern:
I am writing to request a copy of records pertaining to COURT CASE NUMBER, involving NAME, Plaintiff, and NAME, Defendant. The records I am requesting are as follows:
- Motions, Responses, and Counterclaims for hearing dated DATE
- Order Regarding X, dated DATE (X can be Custody, Child Support, Parenting Time, Contempt, etc)
Please send me a reciept with the total cost, so that I may submit payment and have the paperwork mailed to me.
Thank you,
NAME
ADDRESS
CITY, STATE ZIP
PHONE
You can also request copies of any Court records pertaining to the other party or people they associate with, if you are trying to prove that they, or their associates, are not good for the children. You would do the exact same thing as you would to request your records, except you would have to request records pertaining to a specific person, and more than likely you would have to make a trip to the actual Courthouse.
Every parent has the right to access their child’s educational records unless there is a Court Order barring such access. In order to get your child’s school records, simply send a letter similar to the following to your child’s school (courtesy of SPARC www.deltabravo.net)
Month, Day, 20XX
Office of (school name) Elementary/Secondary School
Address
City, State, Zip
To Whom It May Concern:
Please accept this letter as a formal request for any and all school information regarding my biological [son/daughter], [child’s name]. I would like this letter to be entered into [child’s name]’s permanent school record. As there is no court order barring me from contact with my [son/daughter] and I have always tried to be an involved [father/mother], I am exercising my rights under State law and FERPA to have full, unhindered access to my [son/daughter]’s school information.
I have attempted to get this information through his [father/mother], but due to our inability to communicate, I am requesting this information directly from the school. Information to be released includes, but is not limited to, the following:
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Photocopies of all report cards, achievement tests, permission slips, school newsletters, school picture notification, and any other paperwork that is sent to [child’s name]’s primary residence.
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Make sure that my name is in the [Father/Mother] spot on any and all school records, make sure that my name, address, home & work telephone numbers, and my [wife/husband’s] work number are included in the school records as emergency contacts (this information is provided below).
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To be able to contact teachers, aides, counselors, principals, and other school personnel to discuss [child’s name]’s progress in school, any behavioral or disciplinary concerns, and general social well-being of [child’s name] in school, via telephone, email, fax, or in person.
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I want to be notified of and have the opportunity to participate by telephone (or in person if possible) in ANY and ALL meetings, conferences, disciplinary discussions, and any other meetings which require parent participation.
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Copies of any standardized testing results along with opportunities to speak with school personnel if any help is needed interpreting the results.
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Copies of school calendars and notification of special events (winter/spring concerts, plays, school carnival, etc).
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ANY and ALL disciplinary actions (suspension from school or school bus, detentions, etc.) on a timely basis so that [child’s name]’s [father/mother] and I may discuss [his/her] behavioral concerns when they happen.
I would also like to be able to volunteer to help out in [child’s name]’s classroom whenever possible. I am open to reading to students, doing one-on-one work with any student that needs help, discussing career choice(s), and many other activities that would be beneficial, not only to [child’s name], but to [his/her] entire class as well.
I realize that completing a mailing daily is unreasonable. I would be satisfied that non-timely documents can wait and be mailed in bulk. However, any materials or notifications of meetings that are highly time-sensitive need to be mailed in time for me to be an active participant in [child’s name]’s schooling. If the time frame is too small for mailing, please call me at one of the telephone numbers listed below to inform me. You may also fax me any information as well.
I understand that there may be copying or postage costs involved in obtaining material for me. This is not a problem, and I am more than willing to pay for them. Just send a statement whenever such costs are incurred. If you prefer, I will be glad to provide pre-stamped and pre-addressed envelopes in order to make it easier for you to mail me [child’s name]’s school information.
In closing, I would like to be notified (immediately upon the receipt of this letter) of the name of [child’s name]’s teacher and the times during the day that I would be most likely able to telephone and speak with him or her. If you have any question as to whether a piece of information should be sent to me, send it.
Thank you in advance for your cooperation. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me.
Sincerely,
Name
Address
City, State, Zip
Phone and FAX Number(s)
Every parent also has the right to access their child’s medical/dental records, again unless there is a Court Order which specifically bars this access. Here is a letter template, also from SPARC:
Month, Day, 20XX
Doctor/Hospital Name
Address
City State Zip
To Whom It May Concern:
Please accept this letter as a formal request for any and all medical information regarding my biological [son/daughter], [child’s name]. I would like this letter to be entered into [child’s name]’s permanent medical record. As there is no court order barring me from contact with my [son/daughter] and I have always tried to be an involved [father/mother], I am exercising my rights under state and federal law to have full, unhindered access to my [son/daughter]’s medical information
In cooperating with state and federal law, YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT to ask permission from anyone to let me see [child’s name]’s records or be involved in [his/her] medical treatment. Since you have not been nor will be provided with a court order barring my rights, I expect full cooperation from your facility in my being a [father/mother] to my [son/daughter].
I have tried to get the following information through [his/her] [father/mother], but as it seems to upset [child’s name] due to our inability to communicate, I am requesting this information directly from the medical facility to keep [child’s name]’s emotional well-being in the forefront. Information to be considered includes, but is not limited to, the following:
1. Photocopies of the paperwork for all check-ups, inoculations, emergency treatment, and any other paperwork that is sent to [child’s name]’s primary residence ([his/her] [father/mother], [name of father/mother]).
2. Make sure that my name is in the “[father/mother]” spot on any and all medical records, make sure that my name, address, home & work telephone numbers, and my wife’s work number are included in the records as emergency contacts (this information is provided below).
3. To be able to contact doctors, nurses, counselors, and any other medical personnel to discuss [child’s name]’s physical, mental and social well-being via telephone, email, fax, or in person.
4. Copies of any medical testing results along with opportunities to speak with medical personnel if any help is needed interpreting the results.
5. ANY and ALL emergency treatments on a timely basis so that [child’s name]’s [father/mother] and I may discuss [his/her] medical concerns when they happen.
You may mail or fax me any information to the address/fax number below.
I understand that there may be copying or postage costs involved in obtaining material for me. This is not a problem, and I am more than willing to pay for them. Just send a statement whenever such costs are incurred.
I would also like to be notified (immediately upon the receipt of this letter) of the name of [child’s name]’s primary doctor and the times during the day that I would be most likely able to telephone and speak with him or her. If you have any question as to whether a piece of information should be sent to me, send it.
I would also like copies of [his/her] records to be sent to [his/her] pediatrician in [city]. Send the copies to:
[Doctor(s) Name and Address]
Please be advised that I will be authorizing the sending of copies of [child’s name]’s medical records from Dr. [doctor’s name] at Clinic in [city], and Dr. [doctor’s name] at the [name of clinic/hospital] to your office shortly, so as to keep [child’s name]’s records as up-to-date as possible at both [his/her] homes.
Thank you in advance for your cooperation, and if you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me.
Sincerely,
Your Name
Address
City State Zip
Phone and FAX Number(s)
At this point, I would like to refer you to SPARC, as they are an EXCELLENT resource which we have used many times for letter templates.